Adam Cardinal's wedded life began happily in New Hampshire, where same-sex marriages are legal. It went sour three years later in Florida, where they are not.
Mr. Cardinal, who lives in Fort Lauderdale, separated from his husband several months ago. But the couple cannot get a divorce because, in the eyes of Florida officials, their marriage does not exist.
Returning to New Hampshire to sever the bond is not an option either. Although marrying can be accomplished with a brief visit there, a divorce requires residency in the state for at least a year.
Mr. Cardinal cannot remarry -- to do so would make him a bigamist in states such as Massachusetts or New York that recognize his previous nuptials. And although he and his husband did not combine their assets, the lack of an official document certifying the end of their marriage carries financial risks.
"I didn't realize this could potentially be an issue, that we couldn't divorce when we wanted to," Mr. Cardinal said. "That was really upsetting."
The Supreme Court's ruling last week striking down the federal Defense of Marriage Act has been hailed as a victory for gay couples who wish to marry. But it has also offered new hope to people such as Mr. Cardinal who are stuck in a marriage they cannot dissolve.
In a highly mobile society, state bans on same-sex marriage have in many cases made untying the knot far harder than tying it in the first place. But the language in the court's decision is broad enough, legal experts say, to provide a basis for challenges to state laws.
"I think that there's some reason to be optimistic that we might be able to see the end of these statewide marriage bans, which would have lots of positive effects, including being able to free people from relationships they no longer want to be in," said Elizabeth Schwartz, a family law and estate lawyer and gay rights advocate in Miami Beach.
Ms. Schwartz said that, since the ruling, her office had been flooded with calls from clients asking how the decision would affect their chances for divorce. She tells them it might take some time, but the outlook is better than it was.
Early studies suggest that same-sex marriages in the United States are no more likely to end in divorce than heterosexual unions. A 2011 study by the Williams Institute, which conducts research on sexual orientation, gender identity law and public policy, found slightly lower divorce rates for same-sex couples, but M.V. Lee Badgett, the institute's research director, said the rates would probably even out as more people married.
Stephanie Coontz, a professor of family history at Evergreen State College in Washington state and an expert on marriage, said a breakup could be far more damaging without legal guidelines. "Divorce makes people crazy," she said, "and if there are not clear exit rules and support systems for those exit rules, divorces, when they occur, can get very bad."
The legalization of same-sex marriage in a dozen states in recent years led to a flood of weddings, many of them involving couples from states where such unions are still forbidden. Like newlyweds everywhere, most gave little thought to the prospect of divorce.
"You think, 'This is perfect, this is great, I never have to worry about anything,' and it's only in retrospect that you sit back and say, 'I shouldn't have done that,' " said a woman who lives in Florida but married in Connecticut. She insisted on anonymity because she did not want to jeopardize her chances of eventually obtaining a divorce.
Even when same-sex couples divorce in states that recognize their marriages, the process is often more complex than for heterosexual couples. The Supreme Court's decision may correct some of those inequities -- the division of retirement funds and tax deductions for alimony payments, for example.
Peter Zupcofska, a family law and divorce lawyer who practices in Massachusetts and New York, said that in light of the court's decision, married couples living in states where they can divorce "really should look at estate planning documents and prenuptial agreements," because federal regulations governing the division of assets may now apply.
But discrepancies are apt to remain, he and other lawyers said. One example is that although many same-sex couples have lived together for years or decades before marrying, assets in most states are considered divisible only if acquired after marriage. For couples with children, difficulties can arise if they have not been legally adopted by the nonbiological parent.
Some same-sex couples have been startled to find their divorces as politicized as their efforts to marry. In Texas, two same-sex couples who sought to divorce met with fierce opposition from state Attorney General Greg Abbott. Both cases have been appealed to the state Supreme Court and await decisions on whether they will be heard.
In Ohio, Jonathan Baize, 32, was set to have his divorce granted by a private judge last year when a group opposed to same-sex marriage filed an amicus brief objecting to the proceeding. The divorce went through, but Mr. Baize said he was so rattled that he blocked out much of what happened.
"I think that, if I had not been able to finalize the divorce, it would have been pretty devastating to me mentally," he said. "I would have felt like there was no chance of me being able to move on, to find normalcy or happiness or anything."nation