Steel Advice: Tell your husband to wear his tuxedo
June 30, 2014 8:12 PM
Mary Ann Wellener
By Mary Ann Wellener
DEAR STEEL ADVICE: Thank you for the response last week about what is appropriate to wear to a black-tie wedding. One more question: Our entire family (three grown children with their significant others) will be attending this wedding. The three men do not own tuxes and don't want to rent them if they're not part of the bridal party. My husband thought it would be awkward for him to wear a tux but no one else in our family. What is your opinion?
-- FLUMMOXED AGAIN
DEAR FLUMMOXED AGAIN: The bride and groom established the dress code for their wedding when they inserted "black tie preferred" in the invitations. Because your husband already owns a tux he should comply and wear the requested attire. Conservative dark suits that are well accessorized are acceptable for the other three men. Crisp shirts, pocket handkerchiefs and French cuffs dress up a man's suit. The young men have a valid point in objecting to renting formal clothes to attend this wedding. If there are future wedding plans in your family, this exercise in dress code may set the tone for those weddings. Nevertheless, your husband should wear his tux to this wedding and not pattern himself after the three men.
DEAR STEEL ADVICE: My neighbor has bushes and trees that grow over my property line. I think they're an eyesore, but my wife says I cannot trim them because they're not on my property. I say I can trim them because they're hanging over my property line and they block things of ours from growing properly. What should I do?
-- EYESORE BUSHES
DEAR EYESORE BUSHES: Legally, you are correct. You can prune the neighbor's tree branches that hang over in your yard. In Pennsylvania if a branch from a neighbor's tree falls in your yard you are responsible for the cleanup and damage to your property. However, if you arbitrarily start to chop the neighbors bushes because in your opinion they are an eyesore, your wife is correct. The neighbor may get cranky. If you feel a discussion or request about eyesore bushes and property lines would start a feud with the neighbor, just regularly trim your side of the branched out offenders. Some property owners are very territorial and use tree boughs to break relationships. Try to avoid a falling out.
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