Cat's Call: Resentment won't help his woman problem
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DEAR CAT: I am 28. The last relationship I had was with an "attention whore" who was cheating on her fiance and using me as a side fling. The relationship before that was with a little nothing who got a promotion at her job, became full of herself and cheated on me because she thought I was beneath her. Too bad her company closed and she is unemployed. It seems that women today are overly competitive, materialistic, trashy, deceitful, hypocritical, willing to cut somebody's throat or stab anybody's back to gain the slightest advantage, and they have unrealistic standards. Meanwhile they are less or no better than the standards they set. I am confident, educated, good looking, physically fit, clean cut, ethical and gainfully employed, so I don't really see that the problem lies in me. Your call? -- GREAT CATCH
Pittsburgh Post-Gazette
34 Blvd. of the Allies
Pittsburgh, Pa. 15222
DEAR GREAT: Despite your glowing self-description, would a truly confident, ethical guy have relationships with "attention whores" and "little nothings?" I understand having resentment about exes who cheated, but assuming all women are vindictive snakes means your perspective isn't mature. Use the new year to start dating with a clean slate. And remember if you let a few bad apples spoil the bunch ...
Cat's Call: You'll only see the bad in people, even when it isn't there.
DEAR CAT: My husband, kids and I have always gone to my mother's and stepdad's for Christmas Eve. My real dad, his wife and their children come, too. My parents had a very abusive relationship when I was young, but after 25 years apart they now have an amicable relationship and this annual gathering always meant so much to my mother. The fact that my stepdad allowed this proves what a wonderful person he is. The problem: my mother passed away recently and I don't know how to spend Christmas Eve. I'm sure my stepdad won't want to continue having my father's family over, but I want to include my stepfather in our holiday (he's put up with a lot from my family over the years). I'd never want to make him feel like he's not a part of our family anymore. Please help me get through this already trying holiday! -- TRYING HOLIDAY TIME
DEAR TRYING: I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. Losing her was beyond your control but keeping your stepfather in your life is something you can control -- and you should! Your love and respect for him is abundantly clear, which means you understand this time is just as traumatic for him as it is for you. He needs a lot of support right now, and although the holiday gathering was important to your mother, you need to do what feels right for your family at this point. If your stepfather celebrates with your family, while your dad celebrates with his family, nobody is alone and it will relieve everyone of a sense of obligation (the last thing you should feel at this time). I say shake up the Christmas Eve tradition ...
Cat's Call: In favor of a wonderful new one.
First Published December 22, 2009 12:00 am
