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PrintDEAR CAT: I've been dating a man for about four months, and I have come to the conclusion that either he is a workaholic or he wants me to think he is one. We have an incredible connection, and we communicate via e-mail or phone almost every day, but we rarely see each other. He always has some work excuse, and I've started to not believe him anymore. I should mention that we live in different cities but in the same state. Don't get me wrong, I know it's hard to succeed, but is it normal to never see the woman you're dating? He's very romantic in his words and tells me all the time how much he misses me, but it's gotten to the point that I resent it when he says that! I am in love with him, and I don't want to end it, but it can't go on like this. Your call? -- MISS ME? PROVE IT
Pittsburgh Post-Gazette
34 Blvd. of the Allies
Pittsburgh, Pa. 15222
DEAR MISS: It's sad but true, some jobs actually require an insane number of hours. If that's the case with your beau, you must sit down (in person!) and talk honestly about what it bodes for your relationship. On the other hand, you suspect he's faking it, and that's a much bigger problem. Why would he avoid seeing you but still contact you all the time? Is he so insecure that he feels the need to "up" his job in your eyes? I'm sure these and other questions are plaguing you, and there's only one thing to do: talk to him! And remind him what too many workaholics forget or realize too late ...
CAT'S CALL: At the end of the day, your job will never kiss you goodnight.
DEAR CAT: An out-of-state friend asked friends on her MySpace page to participate in her son's school fundraiser. She posted it Thursday night, and I made my order on Friday. Afterward, I let my friend know the dollar amount. The next week she texted me at 10 p.m. to ask how many items I ordered. I go to bed at 9 p.m., and her text woke me up. I e-mailed her the next day with my item count and a polite request (for her) not to contact me so late. She apologized for waking me and added that the order didn't matter because her son didn't sell enough to win some prize. I was disgusted with her attitude. She never even thanked me! What should I do? -- THE ONE WHO MAKES THE EFFORT
DEAR ONE: With all the bad manners in the world, it's a wonder anyone gets along. What should you do? Absolutely nothing. You were trying to help her kid, and "thank you" should have been her first words within a day of your order. Yes, sometimes people lose their manners when they get wrapped up in their own little worlds, but that's no excuse. It's merely an explanation. As such, this situation doesn't merit starting a fight with your friend, or even a discussion. It was one blip on the bad manner radar, and you shouldn't lose sleep over it. Not to worry ...
CAT'S CALL: She'll wake you up again after her son's next bake sale.
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