Q: My husband always insists on "learning vacations" for our kids. But I think they (and we!) need "downtime," whether it's building snow forts in winter or catching fireflies in summer. The kids are 4 and almost 7. Help us settle this dispute!

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A: Well, we think vacations are for relaxing and enjoying family time.

But we think that downtime can easily include learning. We suggest you do the kinds of things you and your husband and children enjoy -- but watch for "teachable moments."

For example, when you're building snow forts, talk about the use of forts in history -- and maybe visit some of the old forts right here in Western Pennsylvania. Build an "igloo" out of snow and talk about the Eskimo culture.

Later, at home, snuggle in with a bowl of popcorn and read books about forts -- or about Eskimos.

Catching fireflies is a great summer activity, and it's full of learning opportunities. Do a little reading ahead of time so, when the moment is right, you can gently guide a discussion about what type of insect a firefly is, how and why it lights up, what should be in the jar to help the firefly stay alive ... and much more.

Go to Kennywood and talk about how and why the rides can make people delightfully dizzy. There are actually books about "amusement park physics" -- do some reading before you go.

The most important thing to remember is the need for quality family time, when you can all relax and enjoy each other's company. Along the way, teachable moments can help you build brains along with snow forts -- and catch imaginations along with fireflies.