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Q: I have a niece who is 5 and extremely sensitive. Her feelings are hurt easily. Her parents are considering changing schools for a more nurturing environment, but I am wondering if she just needs to learn to cope better. If so, how could we help her without making her insensitive?

Q: It's difficult to answer your question without more information. For example, what's happening when your niece's feelings get hurt? What is her teacher like? What is the nature of the classroom environment?

Any of these elements could have a direct bearing on the child's sensitivity.

Observe how your niece acts in various situations. If the super-sensitivity shows up only at school, then perhaps there's something about the school, teacher, or classroom that's not working for this child, and a change to a more appropriate environment might be in order.

But if her sensitivity is constant and over the top, it's possible she's one of the 15 to 20 percent of children described as "highly sensitive," with highly aware nervous systems that are easily stimulated and overstressed. There are ways to teach and interact with highly sensitive children. Professionals with special expertise can help parents and other caring adults learn these techniques.

Keep in mind that sensitivity can be a positive trait, leading to compassion and acceptance of others. You might focus on helping your niece "grow" those wonderful attributes, helping to make her sensitivity a "plus."

Meanwhile, talk with the child's parents, express your concerns, and see what their thoughts are. Please try not to be critical -- they're simply trying to make the best decision for their child.