The author of "Why Women Love Bad Boys" admits the 100 or so women she talked to when she decided to write the book pretty much agree on a few basics:
The "bad boys" you date and marry can break your heart, but the "good guys" might not generate enough excitement to rouse any passions at all.
She has been back in the area for a few days promoting the book, which is dedicated to her late mother, Vivian Gismondi, who died unexpectedly in the spring, just as Ms. Howard's book, her first, was going on store shelves. Ms. Howard, who was Vicki Maroni when she graduated from Penn Hills in 1972, said her mother was her biggest supporter and her best friend.
Ms. Howard said her mother encouraged her the entire four years it took to write the book.
The author used her own experiences (she married, and divorced, two "bad boys"), her mother's and the tales of many other women she met through the years.
"They all had the same story," she said.
They were attracted to men who turned out to be trouble. And they kept repeating the pattern, hooking up with "the type of man their mothers warned them about."
She said she found, through experience and with the help of New York psychoanalyst Dr. Fred Levenson, why these men can be attractive: they're exciting.
Some can be merely commitment phobic or have a wandering eye but others have more serious problems, such as a history of inflicting physical or sexual abuse or actually be in jail. Her book deals with, among others, the narcissist, misogynist, the cheater, the married guy and the emotional abuser.
Each chapter has a different tale to tell plus tips on how to spot "bad boy" behavior. She call those tips "red lights to look for."
Back in the 1970s, Ms. Howard was Miss Pittsburgh Ago-Go, representing the city in New York, and was a regular dancer on the "Come Alive" dance show hosted by Bill Cardille on Channel 11. She worked as a model, as a harness horse trainer, owner and breeder at the Meadows racetrack, and, after she married and moved to Morgantown, W.Va., was Mrs. West Virginia-U.S.A. She developed a line of men's and women's perfumes and ran a car dealership left from her second husband.
So she met a lot of women along the way, and she said most had a relationship with at least one "bad boy".
Although the book is aimed at women, she said men are reading it, and enjoying it, too.
"It's an easy reading, fun book," she said.
Right now, the woman who knows a lot about "bad boys" is dating a guy far nicer than any described in her book.
But she's not moving too quickly with this relationship.
"I am single," she said, and she's enjoying it. She's writing full time now, and a deal may be in the works with the producers of the Montel Williams show to provide advice snippets from the book for the show.
She lives in Boca with her 27-year-old son, Joseph Porco. He's not one of the "bad boys", Ms. Howard said.
"He's the nicest guy I've ever met."
