What to give the bride and groom? And how to give it?

Leigh Zarelli at the Web site Gifts.com, offers some tips:

If you've been invited to an engagement party and the couple hasn't registered yet, take the opportunity to be creative. Consider a membership to a wine club, or ''experience'' gifts like cooking classes, or personalized gifts such as anything monogrammed.

If you think the couple has registered but you don't know where, call their parents, close friends -- or the couple themselves -- to find out. You might also find answers online, for instance at Gifts.com's Wedding Registry Finder service.

Should you bring the gift with you on the wedding day? No. Better to send it, and give the couple (and you) one less thing to worry about.

Wedding etiquette has it that guests have up to one year after the wedding to send a gift, but don't let it hang over your head that long. Try to get the gift to them by the time they get back from their honeymoon, or soon after.