Q: I'm letting my bridal party pick out their own dresses, but one of the girls chose something a little too risque for my (and the church's) taste. How do I tactfully let her know that dress is not OK?

A: This definitely is a touchy subject, but if you're honest with your friend and place the blame on the conservative nature of your ceremony, you should get by without hurting her feelings. Simply say something like, "That dress look amazing on you, but I'm worried that it's too sexy for the church ... and my grandma." Then, try to work out a compromise: Perhaps she can wear a wrap or a cardigan or even a different dress for the ceremony and photos (you can even offer to go shopping with her), then wear the dress in question to the reception. Either way, your pal will understand this is your special day and won't want to do anything to make you feel uncomfortable.