At 27, I never thought same-sex marriage would be a reality in Pennsylvania. The only place I saw myself legally married was in New York City, which to me is much more diverse and accepting. Now it’s a blessing to have the choice to marry in the state and city I call home.
On my journey to authenticity and truth, I am inspired by those who fought for same-sex marriage in Pennsylvania. I am thankful for those same-sex couples who are visible in their daily lives at work, at church and elsewhere. These are the individuals who are leading a path to a brighter future for younger LGBTQA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, questioning and allied) individuals.
Being three minorities in one has made my coming out a little tougher in conservative workplaces and in the black church. As Frederick Douglass said, “If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” I know that the thinking of a conservative state may not change overnight, but progress is being made.
I would like to thank those who have been a part of making my coming out process easier. These organizations would be Judah Fellowship Christian Church of Pittsburgh, New Voices Pittsburgh and the Gay and Lesbian Community Center.
I know that not all will accept the way I love, whether it is some churches, the conservative party and even some family. It’s great to know that if I choose to marry in Pennsylvania, it will be just as valid as my mom and dad’s marriage.