Mother grateful for help from strong support system
December 18, 2013 11:42 PM
Nicole Kepler with her daughters Cheyanne Kepler-Rose, left, 5, and Jayda Rose, 3, at their home in Arlington.
By Brian Batko / Pittsburgh Post-Gazette
Nicole Kepler has plenty to be thankful for this holiday season.
Beyond the usual friends and family, including her two young daughters, Ms. Kepler has a support system that has been by her side since she first found out she would be a mother.
The Council of Three Rivers American Indian Center welcomed Ms. Kepler and daughters Cheyanne, 5, and Jayda, 3, into its Early Head Start program when they were toddlers, as well as the Head Start preschool program they are in now.
Not to mention Darcel Robinson of Hazelwood, one of the in-home visitors from Early Head Start who help foster child and parental development.
"Miss Darcel, I have a bond with her. I can tell her anything," said Ms. Kepler, 22, of Arlington, who also was in the Early Head Start program as a child.
She also remembers when someone at the center first submitted her name to the Marine Corps Toys for Tots program, which the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette helps support with its Goodfellows Fund. Since then, even if Ms. Kepler was on bed rest and couldn't work, her daughters were able to have a little something extra under the Christmas tree.
"Any help counted, to me," Ms. Kepler said, adding that one of the girls' favorite gifts of the past few years, a Hello Kitty airplane, was from Toys for Tots.
But Cheyanne and Jayda know that Santa Claus won't have much incentive to visit their house unless they put out the reindeer food (carrots and oatmeal) and, of course, milk and cookies on Christmas Eve. Ms. Kepler will be the first to admit she wasn't always the biggest holiday enthusiast, but now she doesn't have much of a choice.
"Cheyanne's favorite holiday is Christmas, so I try as best as I can," she said with a smile. "Our Christmas tree is missing three things off of it, but she doesn't care, she wants it up. Santa doesn't come unless the decorations are up."
Little things like that speak to what she has learned as a young mother in Early Head Start, working with people like Ms. Robinson.
"She's always at the children's appointments on time, making sure they have their physicals and immunizations," said Ms. Robinson, who has worked with Early Head Start for five years and Ms. Kepler for three. "She's a well-rounded mother. She also helps a lot of other parents out, as well. Any time she has good information that will help them, she lets them know."
That level of parental development is what Pam Dickinson envisions in her role as coordinator for the in-home visitors at Early Head Start, for which children are eligible from birth to age 3.
"Really, it's a family focus," Ms. Dickinson said. "Our home visitors don't go in and say, 'I'm going to entertain your child for an hour and a half.' It's about the parent engaging with the child."
According to Ms. Kepler, Cheyanne's experience with Early Head Start helped prepare her for preschool in a number of areas -- from knowing her colors and ABCs to understanding how to interact with other children. The program also helped recognize a delay in Jayda's physical development, which allowed Ms. Kepler to find a physical therapist and pinpoint her daughter's need for an individualized education program.
"They teach them about how to serve themselves, eat off a plate, brush their teeth," Ms. Kepler said. "So they know when they get [to preschool] what they're doing, and there's not a big gap in between."
Ms. Dickinson said all 70 children her agency works with will take part in Toys for Tots this Christmas, not just those from the 48 families who meet with in-home visitors.
"We always get nice things, but this year they were extremely organized and we got some really great toys for our children," Ms. Dickinson said. "We as an agency buy a couple nice gifts, but we take these in a black bag so the parents can wrap it up and say, 'This is from me.'
"So I think they do really appreciate it."
Ms. Kepler, who last year waited in line at the Toys for Tots warehouse in the Strip District, said she does. Although her daughters are happy with any presents they get, Jayda's eyes lit up at the mere mention of Hello Kitty, and Cheyanne is "into educational toys -- she wants to read so bad."
This year will be Ms. Kepler's first handling the Christmas duties on her own at her new home with her daughters and a few other close family members. And even if she does feel a bit overwhelmed when the time comes, it's just another responsibility those around her have helped prepare her for.
"She's very hard-working, always energetic, never complains," Ms. Robinson said. "She does everything for them -- her kids are with her all the time.
"She's very dedicated to her kids and her family."
Since 1947, the Post-Gazette's Goodfellows Fund has worked to ensure that every child receives a toy at Christmas. Tax-deductible contributions to the fund can be made by visiting www.post-gazette.com/goodfellows. Every contribution is acknowledged in the newspaper.
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