Steel Advice: Empty nesters' goal is to let hockey player go
May 19, 2014 9:09 PM
Mary Ann Wellener
By Mary Ann Wellener
DEAR STEEL ADVICE: My wife and I are empty nesters. We thought it would be fun to open our home and house a young man who is an aspiring professional hockey player. He has lived with us for two seasons and his out-of-town parents pay us a token rent. He is a great kid but the problem is we do not want to sign on for a third season. There is always a chance he will be picked to turn pro and we would love having that connection but he is injured right now and may not be able to continue playing hockey at all. How do we tell him and what do we tell him? — HOCKEY FANS
DEAR HOCKEY FANS: Have the discussion about next season’s living arrangement sooner rather than later. It sounds like you want to delay having the “talk” until you know which direction this young man’s career will head. An immediate conversation with him may actually help him make some of the decisions he is facing. Tell him how you have enjoyed having him in your home however you and your wife have decided to go back to being empty nesters. There is no need for you to justify or rationalize your decision. Tell him you are giving him plenty of notice so he will be able to make plans for next season.
DEAR STEEL ADVICE: My daughter is graduating from high school. We don’t want to have a big party, but we do want to send out announcements. Who should receive an announcement for a high school graduation? — GRAD’S PARENT
— DEAR PARENT: High school graduation announcements run a close second to donation requests. Send an announcement to the people who care about your daughter and who would normally send her a graduation card or gift without a formal announcement. This circle includes grandparents, close relatives and friends who share a connection with her. Completing high school in today’s world is expected and unless there are unusual circumstances, it is not a reason to solicit laurels and presents for your child from your bowling league or work colleagues. Keep the announcement list small.
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