DEAR STEEL ADVICE: I host a weekly Bible study in my home. I love hosting, but often some of the people veer off the subject and onto politics. They have very strong opinions and get quite loud. The Bible study seems to turn into a political rally. Even worse is when people start making racist comments. We do not care for that talk in my home. I am also afraid that my children will hear this. I love these people, but I feel like putting a sign on the porch that says to please leave your political and racist attitudes at the door. What can I do?
-- BIBLE STUDY HOSTESS
DEAR BIBLE STUDY HOSTESS: Do not sit quietly and stew. Call or email a few close members and ask them for their help in redirecting the meetings to stay on task. A cardboard sign or a "What Would Jesus Do?" poster might be a lighthearted reminder of why everyone has come to your home in the first place. If the tone of the meetings does not change in the near future it is probably time for your group to splinter and re-emerge with some fresh faces. The outspoken members are using the Bible study meetings as a bandwagon for prejudice and personal political agendas.
DEAR STEEL ADVICE: I have a dilemma. My husband and I agreed not to give each other gifts for our upcoming anniversary. We have more than enough of everything, and neither he nor I need anything. However, I know that he will still buy me something. Historically, he cannot help himself. He is always thinking of nice little things to do for me and sometimes these little things come as gifts -- year round. I am a lucky lady. So, should I stick to my promise not to spend any money on a gift, get him a thoughtful present, write him a note from the heart? Any ideas are appreciated.
-- PRESENTLY CHALLENGED
DEAR CHALLENGED: Be true to your word and do not buy your husband an anniversary present. Show sincere appreciation and surprise, however, if you are on the receiving end of a gift from him. Your husband's reward is the fun he has seeing your enjoyment when you open his gift.
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