Cindy Krischer Goodman’s Balancing Act: Back-to-school worries can stress working parents as well as kids

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Kareem Anguin gripped his young daughter’s hand and walked her through the bustling hallway to her first-grade classroom at Lincoln-Marti School in Miami. Full of first-day jitters, 7-year-old Andrea peppered him with questions: Would he have to work late? Would he be around to help with homework?

His response was one muttered often by working parents: “I’ll do my best.”

As we embark on another school year, there’s no denying that back-to-school worries can be as stressful for working dads and moms as they are for kids. We find ourselves scurrying to buy supplies and adopt new routines to blend our children’s school schedules and activities with our work hours — and can only try to do our best.

Getting the right arrangements in place can be crucial to our job performance and our child’s school success. Many parents adjust strategies yearly, tweaking for new school hours or tapping new resources. Still, getting it right can be a challenge. In a new Pew Research Center survey, 56 percent of working moms and 50 percent of working dads said they find it very or somewhat difficult to juggle work and family life.

Those who can tap work flexibility are fortunate. Last school year, Mr. Anguin, a single father and an executive chef, hired a sous chef to help in his restaurant’s kitchen and allow him to get home earlier to go over homework and put his daughter to bed. While his goal was to be home by 7 p.m. and take a day off midweek, it didn’t always happen.

This school year, he has an additional sous chef and plans to try harder to be home to supervise homework, pop out to take his daughter to ballet class, and have a weekday off. If he succeeds, he wants to use that day to volunteer at his daughter’s school: “I am hoping to cook for the kids or teach them about preparing food.”

Many parents are still working out the kinks in after-school arrangements. Last year, Patricia Brown, an administrative assistant, sent her 13-year-old daughter to after-school care at the local community center. But almost every afternoon at work, she got a text message from the child saying she was bored and begging to be picked up early.

This year, she is letting her daughter go home on the bus. She has created a routine for her daughter to follow — snack, homework, free time: “I think it’s going to be less stressful for me.”

Experts say after-school child care often is working parents’ biggest stressor. Parents miss an average of five days of work per year due to a lack of after-school care, and their afternoon productivity is affected, too, according to a 2006 study of 1,755 employed parents by Catalyst, a nonprofit that focuses on women’s issues, and Brandeis University.

Extracurricular activities often present a challenge, too. Some parents believe busy kids are accomplished kids. Yet getting children to and from sports practices or piano lessons can create work conflicts for parents.

Working parents like Katie Gilden — a CPA and mother of children ages 8, 6 and 4 — have made an effort not to over-schedule them. Last year, Ms. Gilden limited her kids to two activities each and negotiated flexibility at work to drive them around. This year, she will do the same.

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Cindy Krischer Goodman is CEO of BalanceGal LLC, a provider of news and advice on how to balance work and life. She can be reached at


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